So, this happened a bit ago, but has been on my mind for a while now… Over the last few years, I’ve become really close with a coworker. She’s awesome. A chosen sister. A kindred spirit. I genuinely love hanging out with her.
Anyway, the 1st time I invited her over, we just planned to have some coffee and relax. She texted me when she parked, and I went out to get her (the complex that I lived in was huge and kind of confusing if you weren’t familiar with the area). She was standing at her car, and was wearing a really cute summer outfit. A pair of loose and flowey pants, and a belly shirt that showed a bit of her midriff… It was 116 ﾟF outside, and I didn’t think twice about her clothes.
As she locked the car, she asked if my husband was inside. After I said yes, she asked “Do you want me to change my clothes?” I was completely taken aback… “What?! No. Why? Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable.” She seemed relieved.
Now… My husband isn’t the type to ogle at women. Nor is he the type that would make inappropriate comments… But, even if he was that type, it would be entirely on him. Not her. If he acted that way, I’d be pissed at him. Not at her.
It broke my heart, a little bit, that she even felt the need to ask that, in the 1st place… I don’t know if anyone here needs to hear this, but if you do, I want to tell you what I told her: You are not responsible for the things that other people say and do. Regardless of the clothes that you’re wearing. It is 110% okay to dress comfortably while simultaneously expecting respect. The clothes that you wear do not change the personalities around you. If someone sees your clothing as an excuse to be awful towards you, it is because they are awful people, NOT because of what you’re wearing! Never let anyone tell you otherwise.